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Post by beckybailey on Jan 24, 2008 15:07:22 GMT -5
My husband won't ask the vet to do a skin scaping of his dog. I have suffered for 3 1/2 years. He has taken the dog to the vet a few times over that time FOR ITCHING AND COUGHING and won't ask for a skin scraping. I'm just asking him to TRY to help me identify this scourge. I believe his dog has it too. My husband didn't have me committed, when he could have. But should I be so thankful for that, and not expect him to do anything more for me, ever? I'm just seething with rage......I even shot him the middle finger as I was leaving for work this morning, and he does not forgive that. What if it were him that was suffering with this, would he be so darn embarrassed then to ask the vet to try to see what is in the dogs skin?
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Post by suebe on Jan 24, 2008 15:24:20 GMT -5
BB I'm so sorry he's not hearing you. Yes lots of men think doctors and Vets. are like God and they know all, my hubby is the same, now he'll back me with what I want but would never suggest to a doctor, vet, hell even the dentist as to what test he'd like done. It took me 3 years and 3 dead dogs to get the vet. to say the words "something very bad and strange is going on in your home". Now with the two dogs we have she is at last very open minded and agrees with me 100% that our dogs need a full body x-ray every year. Our Boarder Collie went through pure hell with Morgellons and skin graft surgeries. It was so bad and so not worth waiting to do a simple skin scraping. I'd be willing to give your hubby my vets number so she could tell him how hard that was for our dog.
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Post by godog on Jan 24, 2008 16:27:11 GMT -5
Sometimes I am so lonely, all by myself with this disease, no mate. And then, other times I am so dang glad!!!!!!
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Post by godog on Jan 24, 2008 16:29:21 GMT -5
Did you hear about the woman that shot her husband with a crossbow? She didn't use a gun cause she didn't want to wake the kids. That's a joke.
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Post by suebe on Jan 24, 2008 16:35:22 GMT -5
LMAO
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Post by beckybailey on Jan 24, 2008 16:51:15 GMT -5
Thanks, everyone. And I needed the laugh too!
suebe, I am printing your reply to show my husband. It would help his little pea-brain to see that I am not the only one that believes our pets get this scourge too.
Does your vet have any idea? Has she/he done skin scrapings? I believe putting oil on their skin first may help get better results.
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Post by toni on Jan 24, 2008 16:51:49 GMT -5
BB, I'm sorry he's not cooperating with your needs. I can only imagine how that would be living with someone who isn't helping matters where you see important. If "and I hate to say it like this" but (if it were me, I suppose I'd take the dog when you can possibly yourself to the vet)?
Or call and ask your vet if you can scrape your dogs skin, and put the "dry scrapings in a folded piece of paper" and mail it, if they can examine it that way "maybe"? Or a few hairs even?
Godog, that's funny! I know, we probably all feel the same way sometimes, can't live with em sometimes, and can't live without em sometimes.
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Post by beckybailey on Jan 24, 2008 17:06:16 GMT -5
Hi toni, we posted at the same time, LOL!
I suppose I could dognap HIS dog and get the scraping done, but I'd have to go out of town so that no one recognizes me or the dog, so my husband won't be embarrassed.........jerk!
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Post by robertalouise26 on Jan 24, 2008 17:58:46 GMT -5
Hi ((BB)) What breed of dog do you have and what symptoms is your dog displaying. I just might be able to help you as I am a very doggy person. Very best wishes. Roberta.
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Post by robertalouise26 on Jan 24, 2008 18:15:06 GMT -5
Dear ((BB)) Shampoo your dog with an alove vera shampoo it is very gentle and won't sting the dog. Leave it on for about 10 minutes, rinse it off. then run some fresh water and put benzalkonium chloride in the rinse water. Pour the rinse water with the benzalkonium all over the dog. DONT RINSE IT OFF AND DONT DRY THE DOG. Let it dry naturally. I am sure that this will help. Don't hesitate to contact me if i can give you more help my email is robbie@xtra.co.nz. Love and best wishes. Roberta.PS if YOU ANN'T FIND AN ALOE VERA SHAMPOO get a dog shampoo that is anti fungal and antiseptic. Best wishes. Roberta.
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Post by robertalouise26 on Jan 24, 2008 18:28:55 GMT -5
Good Lord ((B)) it is me again. I am so sorry that your husband is not helping you have you one or two dogs> Now I have a very nastsy bacterial infection in my ears which is resistent to most antibiotics. I had to take my dog to the Vet yesterday for her annual vaccination. The Vet gave Kyra a thorough going over and noticed that the inside of her ears were red and the Vet thinks that maybe Kyra GOT THIS THING FROM ME.!!!!! Which just stressess me out so much. The infection I have is pseudomonas aeruginosa you can look it up on the internet. Do you clean your dogs ears with a q-tip? That is okay you can use warm water with salt but the Vet has presscribed Epi otic for Kyras ears. Best again. Roberta.
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Post by beckybailey on Jan 24, 2008 20:47:53 GMT -5
The dog is his, I don't touch it. But I'm printing your advice to show my husband. Thanks, robertalouise26!
We discussed it (loudly) when I got home today, and he says he will get it done. We'll see.
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Post by robertalouise26 on Jan 24, 2008 21:22:58 GMT -5
Dearest ((BB)) that is good news if he does take your dog to the Vet and ask for a skin scraping but also ask the Vet to clip some of your dogs hair and have that analized also. If you like you husband can email me at robbie26@xtra.co.nz anytime. I am nearly 66 and have had dogs all my life since I was five. You can also tell your husband that I have a very agreesive bacteria in my ears and that Yesterday my Vet gave my dog her annual vaccination but looked in her ears and said I think that she has the same as you Robbie. THAT I COULD HAVE GIVEN IT TO KYRA (MY DOG)!!! and that is just screwing me up. But have some excellent drops for her ears, she has to be kept away from WATER!!!!!!!!! i will go in depth later if you want to know anything about they way I feel about water and this bacteria in my ears. I wil not get angry with you husband I will just try to tell him in a gentle way that it could help all of you if yur dog is tested. Please keep me up to date on what is happening. Much love and very very best wishes for you dog and also that your husband keeps his word and takes the dog to the Vets. Hiugs Roberta.
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Post by beckybailey on Jan 25, 2008 11:16:37 GMT -5
I forgot to answer your question: He is an adorable Boston Terrier, but a smelly butt because my husband doesn't bathe him regularly.
Last night I told my husband, if it were his dog covered in a dozen lesions THEN he would do something about it. But since it is only his WIFE that is in misery, that's just fine with him!
Then I calmly, but in tears, asked him how he would like going to bed every night to have bugs crawling in your ears, popping out of your eyelashes, crawling around in your hair, and everywhere the bed touches you? I said "Can you imagine?!?" He finally hugged me sweetly and then the argument was over, and he said he would get the scraping done. I told him he could go to a vet out of town if he is so concerned about his reputation.
Thanks so much for your kind concern. I swear, the best people in the world are here on this board!
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Post by beckybailey on May 7, 2008 13:39:50 GMT -5
My husband, the World Renowned Procrastinator, finally got the vet to do a skin scraping yesterday. I've asked him no less than a dozen times to get it done.
The vet found NOTHING.
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Post by suebe on May 7, 2008 14:12:08 GMT -5
I'm not at all surprised BB, our vet thought she'd find mites when our Boarder Collie got lesions all over her back, but she didn't find one mite. What she did find that freaked her out was the hair was empty. Had nothing inside, looked like a empty tube. She didn't know why. The dog ended up having a big skin graft surgery. It was months of work, vet visits, treatments to get her ready for the surgery.
Our Husky never got the lesions but had Morgellons very bad in every moist area of her body. The vet. tried many different treatments with no luck, she started having breathing problems the vet. thought was allergies. I pushed for a xray that showed multiple lesions in the lungs. We lost her last year. That why the vet. agrees we do a yearly full body xray on our dogs.
I'm so sorry they didn't find a answer for you but very glad your hubby got it done. I'm not surprised the vet. found nothing, they see those fibers as debris that got on the slide and nothing more, they don't even mention them in their reports because they think they are looking at dust.
My new saying is Only one can understand when the dust that should be in the corner is under the skin.
We also lost two dogs to this horror even prior to my getting full blown, we didn't know then but looking back now, even the vet agrees it was Morgellons.
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Post by belikewater on May 7, 2008 15:17:20 GMT -5
godog, I'm with you, Babe. I hate drama in the home. If I need to find folks who know what I am talking about, I can come to the board.
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Post by belikewater on May 7, 2008 15:19:43 GMT -5
suebe, Do you think you caught Morgs from your dogs? Like maybe dog food or something on their coats brought it into the house?
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Post by beckybailey on May 7, 2008 15:37:35 GMT -5
I asked him to look for anything resembling fibers or threads, and what colors to watch for. NOTHING was found.
I don't know what to think, except maybe I can be less afraid that I am getting it from the dog. When we travel together in the van I don't get worse.
Yesterday I had an attack on my leg and put Gold Bond Healing Lotion on it and found a bundle of fibers. That Gold Bond is the bomb. This morning my hand was itching and I grabbed for it and got another big one off my hand.
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Post by josej on May 7, 2008 17:54:05 GMT -5
Hi ((BB))
And now a word from one of those "husband" types.
I may be wrong, but I think I might know what's going thru' Mr BB's brain. Again, if I'm wrong... I sincerely apologize to the guy. But it goes like this:
He probably doesn't really believe that Morgellons is anything other than some weird disease. He certainly doesn't make as big a deal out of it as you do. Most psychiatrists think it's just a complex mental delusion. Regular MD's don't think it's anything more than a stubburn dermatitis. And the vet's probably thinking along the same ignorant lines.
Mr BB doesn't want to come off like a kook. Therefore he'll avoid asking for a skin-scraping because that would make him too much like you. A little bit "suspect" in the doctor's eyes. It's a pride-thing. And I feel for the big fella' because if he really believed that it was true, I'm sure he'd go to the ends of the earth for you and your pooch.
But he doesn't know it's true. He's on the fence. He's not sure what to think. And as a male, it's safer for him to err on the conventional-wisdom side.... rather than to put himself out there and possibly get mocked. It's ok for you to be ridiculed. But for a guy to stick his neck out like that? Ummmm.. not likely.
((BB)) I'm sorry for what it's doing to you. As a wife, you're disgusted and angry with the big lug because you see it as a lack of trust on his part... a lack of faith in you... a lack of balls (maybe).
But on the other hand, from your bigfoot's point of view, he doesn't want this reality. He just wants all this to go away! He just wants his ol' wife back the way she was.... all sweet and cuddly and taking care of him. Yep, it's pretty infantile, but that's who we are... big overgrown children.
It takes a while. But eventually (I'm really hoping) your husband will come around when his eyes are opened. Then he'll be a different person; the one you need now. I know this sucks. And I'm sorry for all the messed up emotions that you're feeling. But, please just be kind of the big goof. Don't freeze him out. No extended middle fingers. Remember, he's just ignorant [meaning: without knowledge]. Show him. Show him evidence. Ask him to read an article on Morgellons. Don't overwhelm him... do it gently... as if dealing with a slightly retarded person. After all, that's what we men are like the majority of the time.
Feel free to print this out and let him read it.
If some of my opinions seem deeply insightful, well... it's because that was me at the beginning of my wife's disease. Ack! I'd kick my own rear end if only I could reach my butt. Blessings on you.
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